By Meghan Dashe
March 14, 2013
When you start college, dorm life is typically your first experience of freedom. Along
with this great power comes the freedom of all things sexual. So, since you’re probably living with a roommate, it’s a good idea to make sure you set some boundaries first.
Although this room is your room, and you can do whatever you want in it, it’s important that you and your roommate have a mutual level of respect. The bottom line is, if you want to do it, don’t do it with your roommate in the room. Your room is pretty small- some people can compare it to a jail cell, which is why sometimes three can be considered a company.
First thing to remember is that you might think your roommate is asleep, but trust me, they’re probably not. The last thing your roommate wants to hear is a stampede of bulls running down the streets of Mexico. No matter how quiet you think you are, you’re not being that quiet.
“My roommate decided that while I was extremely ill, that was a good time to bring her guy home and have sex with him… with me… in the room… while I was sick,” says a Senior at Lock Haven who wishes to remain anonymous.
The best thing to do is to talk it over with your roommate before hand. This will help make it a little less awkward. You could come up with some kind of code or symbol to eliminate any awkward situations. You could leave a note on the door saying “ Come back later, I’m busy” or maybe have a specific picture that you hang on your door. Also, always remember to lock your door while you’re in the act, someone walking in is a serious mood killer, and can be a bit awkward.
One final note on the topic of noise: it’s common that most dorm beds make a lot of noise and can shift with a lot of force. This might cause a lot of banging, and not only will your roommate hear you, but your neighbors to the left, right, above, and below also have the pleasure of hearing your activities.
Sex can be fun, but remember that the key is to respect your roommate. You don’t want to wake up the next day and not know what your roommate may have heard. No one wants tension in the room! Make sure you’re respectful, and just put yourself in your roommates shoes before you think about bringing someone back!
Meghan Dashe is a senior majoring in communication and can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org