April 10, 2014
People who invite themselves to your plans. We all know that guy, you know the one who truly thinks that he is entitled to just tag along with whatever you and your group of close friends are doing. This guy might not necessarily be a bad guy—although that’s usually the case—but there’s usually just something about him that isn’t quite right.
However, this guy could also be a bit on the annoying side or maybe even a little creepy. The point is that it’s rude to invite yourself to anything, especially if you know that you’re not a part of aforementioned inner circle. Remember that people have different circles of different friends and that means that you’re not always going to be included in every get together or gathering.
Relax; it doesn’t mean they don’t like you. So don’t go freaking out on anyone over a lack of invite. Instead, try to be understanding and open-minded. Realize that everyone knows more than just one person and that your friends are required to divide their time amongst everyone. That includes you. And whether or not you realize it, you likely do the same thing to your friends sometimes. Instead of sitting around bored and without plans, go make new friends, find a new hobby or take up a new sport.
Dwelling on the fact that some of your friends are out and about having a good time only makes things worse. It’s better to keep yourself and your mind occupied. I’ve been on both the giving and receiving end of this type of conflict and both ends stink. Just recently I was making plans with a group of friends and somebody who was acquainted with us just barged in and invited themselves to our lunch plans.
It was terrible to have to put the guy off—not because we were being mean, but because we had these plans for just the three of us for a while—and when he realized he was not invited it just made the situation even worse. Next time you’re in either of these positions, just keep in mind that we all have different friends and relationships to tend to and nobody likes a pushy friend who writes themselves an invitation to the fun. It tends to ruffle a lot of feathers.