In the movie “He’s Just Not That into You,” one of the female characters states, “A wise person once told me that if a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, no matter what.”
This got me thinking. What I’d like to know is if this is the case then why and how do people still choose the wrong person?
Repeatedly, year after year, we go after people who don’t actually care, people who don’t reciprocate our love. We choose the people we think we deserve. We choose bad people because we think we deserve bad people. We choose people who won’t love us with the passion and desire we have for them because we think we deserve pain.
It’s hard to believe that our friends and family members go around picking people who treat them horribly, but this happens every day. We want so badly to snap them back to reality and to make them see that they have so much more going for them.
Sometimes we even want to prove to them that we are the better choice. We have always been there and will always be there to pick up the pieces when anything goes wrong. Through all the happy, sad and frustrating times, we are the ones who have their backs and catch them when they fall.
Sadly, life doesn’t work this way. They probably won’t notice the person who has been there all along because, let’s be real, this isn’t a movie. People don’t realize what their true worth is.
However, I like to believe that this still can happen sometimes. If someone realizes they could have better than that person gets to be so much happier and better off. They might even start noticing good in themselves and others that they never did before.
It doesn’t matter how long it takes a person to realize it. It only matters that they do eventually realize the value placed on them by the people who actually care, one hundred percent.
That’s the funny thing about us humans. We let so much hurt us that we never stop to notice the things that, let alone the people who make us happy. These people could make all the difference in our lives, but in the end we accept only as much love as we think we deserve.
So yes a wise person might have said that if a guy wants a girl it will happen, but if we look around, too many people—male and female—are choosing the wrong person, making it hard for the right one to be seen.
Forget about who you think you deserve because most likely you think you deserve worse than you actually do. Instead, try looking at who you already have.