There is nothing wrong with calling home we all do it, sometimes multiple times a day but at some point you have to grow up and start acting like an adult. By the time you are in college there are certain things you should be able to do for yourself; you can’t constantly rely on your parents to be there for everything.
Making a doctor appointment is not something that is life threatening, it’s a simple phone call that will, at the most, take you five minutes. It is not as scary as it seems and believe it or not it is actually painless. Crying over something that every adult ever has had to do is not going to make it any easier. Just rip that Band-aid off and get it over with.
Also if you have your own bank account you DO NOT need to call your parents and ask them if you can take your money out of your account. You don’t need to be calling your parents for their permission on everything you do. That is one of the perks of being an adult. Your parents won’t always be there to budget your money for you. You need to learn for yourself what is better, spending that money on rent or a new pair of shoes? If you decide to spend your money on something you don’t need, it is not your parent’s fault, it’s yours.
By the time you are in college, you should be able to cook for yourself. Your parents sending some food back with you is normal, after all nothing beats mom’s cooking. However, being sent back with months worth of precooked meals is a little excessive. Cooking is a necessary life skill and if you have to burn a few things before you get it right, then so be it, but your parents won’t be there to cook for you forever.
It is okay to have a close relationship with your parents but taking that relationship too far can be holding you back from really experiencing adulthood. Your parents will not be there to hold your hand through all of the scary adult things you will go through like, job interviews, renting your first apartment or making your own food. These are things you need to go through on your own and learn from. You can still lean on your parents for support, after all that’s one of the things they are there for, but they can’t live your life for you.